Life is not linear
Most of us want to iprove our life, to the point that it's really hard to tell if we are being greedy. We all want to increase the salary over time, bigger house, lower body fat and more muscle, getting richer. Not just material stuff, but even when it come to spiritual and mental level. We want to do yoga to the master level, we try meditation because somebody says that it's good for your mental health.
We all want everything to grow in the positive direction, that's great, nothing's wrong with that, what's wrong with wanting things to be better so you could have better things, not only for yourself but for people you love.
But, then it come to the point that we are obsessed with something or we compare ourself with other. Sometimes, when you see a post about people being relatively younger than you and they have a successful startup that gained million dollar a year. Good for them, they've done something good for the society and got the reward they deserved, but now, there a little thought, the little feeling that the young generation is better than you and some day they are gonna replace you so that you are unemployeed.
Here's another story, when you and your friend are talking about someone, talking about someone that you haven't met for a couple of years, and you found out that person is doing extremely well. Good for him, but now you will reflect it to your life and find yourself miserable, now that feeling come from out of nowhere, 5 minutes ago you were having fun but now there's a little thought in your mind tell you that you need to try harder in life.
Things got worse when it come to role model. Say, you take someone as your role model because you want to be like him at a certain point in life. There's nothing wrong with that. A couple of years ago when i was 22, I used to be shy and broke, then i change my employer and got a chance to work with this guy, he's around 3 years older than me so he's 25 at the time, he looks extremely confident, out going, has a lot of friends, not rich but doing very well and is financial stable. That's where i wanted myself to be when i'm 25. But 3 years later, when i'm 25, at his age when i met him 3 years ago, i start comparing myself with him 3 years ago. Guess what, i found myself not as confident, not as out going as this guy 3 years ago, and i felt like a loser because i couldn't be like him back then.
But, now i realize that not everything is linear in life, maybe you want to be an athelete and become better everyday. But one day you get an injury and you have to do something else instead, from the scratch.
There are events in life that drag you down, such as on the edge of something big in your career but then you lose someone you love and nothing seem to be matter anymore. Starting a Food & Beverage business which is going very well then Covid 19 hit hard like a train. For me, i had no event that drag me down, i used to look up to the older guy and tried becoming a better person. In the end, i couldn't be as good as him, but i definitely became better than me 3 years ago, in that 3 years, not only in these areas of my life are improved, i improved other area in my life as well. I started accepting that i was good enough for me in my life situation. Now i think it's like a video game, you are given points so that you could use these points to upgrade skills or stats that you want. Everyone is given different point, but the important thing is that they will use their point to upgrade the skills that matter to them the most.
