On Chances We Don't Take

I will start by this anecdote that i have read somewhere now i cannot remember.

A man has an issue with his anger, to the point that it affects his life deeply so he decided to go to the church and pray god to give him the power to not get angry over people around him. As everyday goes on, things are still the same – his anger doesn't go anywhere. Then, he came back to the church and ask the priest why god didn't give it to him, the priest said: "God gives you the chance to practice it everyday, you just didn't take it".

Giving the context that I have been living alone for a while and sometimes i just want to go out to escape the place by going to the coffee shop so that i could feel better. I become lazier, i usually buy food rather than cooking, i don't clean the house everyday anymore, i scroll social media more... There are more and more but I'm too lazy to list them out now.

And today, as the idea comes to my mind, what if me living alone right now is a bless that i could get a chance to work on myself and love myself more? Come to think of it, i don't have to worry about fucking up the dinner, i don't have to worry about being henpecked by making a mistake. Now i could take times to learn things, trial and error as many times as i want with small consequences. Then why don't i try and learn something instead of becoming lazy?

The other thing i read lately is that the thing i should strive for is being content by myself, not with myself. Knowing that me is enough, everything else is a bonus. When everything else is a bonus, they are not necessary, i would be great if i have them, but everything is still okay without them.

The idea doesn't just limit to the topic of living alone because it's a mindset. We should think of tough situation as a chance to make something out of it, not solely something to conquer without learning anything.