When Someone Trust You, They Actually Giving You Power To Hurt Them

I just came to realize this while writing the other post about "Now and Perfect Moment". But that one friend came to live with me for a while really trusted me. That friend just handed me the power of abandonment without me realizing it.

Say, when someone trust me about something, they put a vulnerability of me not being the thing they trusted me for. For example, if my friend trust me that I'm a decent person and wouldn't do anything unethical, the moment they caught me doing something bad would hurt them. Maybe they wouldn't believe in what they just saw and tries to deny it, but when the truth revealed they would be hurt for sure.

This clearly is not in my control, but i have to acknowledge that the intention of doing something because i want to or because i think people around me would like it. If it's the latter then I must be the one responsible for it. Clearly i tried being something not myself and try to fool people.

Come to think that my ex trusted me to the bottom of her heart. I don't want to mention who faults or anything else but the fact that we trusted each other, and the other person know that they are being trusted to not cross some boundary. Talking about my side solely. In the end when things became bitter and sour, i clearly damaged the trust from her, there are parts that i clearly pretended, other parts was my authentic self. But the emotion was real, i saw it all. The moment she realized that I was not the person she had always thought I was, something crumbled.